Children and gemstones are a wonderful combination. Children are pure and often dare to feel without barriers. This means that children are generally more sensitive to gemstones than adults. Where an adult sometimes carries a stone around for weeks before anything changes, a child often responds much faster. That makes working with gemstones and children especially rewarding, but it also calls for a little extra care. In this blog you will read what to look out for and which stones suit the different stages of your child's life.
Two important rules of thumb
Precisely because children are so sensitive to the energy of stones, there are roughly two rules of thumb to keep in mind.
1. Avoid dark stones. Dark stones such as Onyx, Black Obsidian and Garnet are generally too intense for children. The effect of these stones is often deep and confronting, and for a child's body that is simply too much of a good thing.
2. One stone at a time. It is generally wise to let children wear only one stone at a time. That keeps the energy clear and lets you observe what a stone does for your child.
One more practical tip: never let babies and young children play with small stones themselves, because of the risk of choking. Place the stone on a shelf in the room instead, or choose a larger stone that cannot be swallowed.
Which gemstone suits a child best depends largely on the stage of life the child is in. Every stage has its own points of attention on a physical, emotional and mental level. And of course every child is unique, with all the wonderful talents and challenges that come with it.
Pregnancy
Pregnancy is a vulnerable phase in which a new life unfolds. There are several stones that can support you and your little one during pregnancy.
- Moonstone: supports conception and regulates and balances the hormonal system. Especially useful to carry with you during the first months of pregnancy.
- Red Jasper: a protective and grounding stone that helps mother and child become strong and powerful.
- Agate: supports all growth processes during pregnancy.
- Dumortierite: encourages enjoyment during pregnancy and helps you let go and accept things as they are right now.
- Chrysoprase: helps the final stage of pregnancy and the birth itself go smoothly.
Baby
Safety and calm are the two most important needs of a newborn baby. The stones below deserve a lovely spot in the nursery.
- Rose Quartz: has a loving, warm and gentle energy that creates a safe, calm and loving atmosphere.
- Labradorite: when there is tension at home for whatever reason, Labradorite can be a lovely complementary stone. Labradorite strengthens the child's aura, so that tension and stimuli come in less harshly.
- Blue Chalcedony: calms, relaxes and comforts.
Toddlers and preschoolers
Toddlers and preschoolers still live very much from their intuition. When it comes to picking out stones, feel free to let children do their thing. You will be amazed at how often they choose exactly the right stone. For specific challenges, the stones below can be used.
- Nephrite: can support potty training. It is a stone that works strongly on the kidneys.
- Blue Calcite: a stone that can support learning to talk. Blue Calcite works on the Throat Chakra.
- Labradorite: a lovely protective stone that can help process all the new impressions when a child goes to daycare for the first time.
- Carnelian: can make the first contact with new friends a little easier. Carnelian helps you express your opinion while staying understanding toward others. A lovely friendship stone.
- Tiger's Eye: some children get overwhelmed by other children and do things they would rather not do. Tiger's Eye is a protective stone and helps a child say no when he or she does not want something.
Starting elementary school
This too is an exciting new phase in which a great deal comes at the child. The stones below can support a child in different ways.
- Chrysocolla: balances children's emotions and makes it easier to get along with others. It is a stone that reduces stress and helps them cope more smoothly with new, changing situations.
- Amazonite: helps children decide things for themselves and get on with them. It is also a calming stone that softens sadness and reduces mood swings.
- Lapis Lazuli: a calming and soothing stone that gives the confidence to speak sincerely, in a calm and powerful way. Helps with expressing feelings.
- Fluorite: a stone that helps with absorbing information. Learning is not always easy and the mind quickly overflows. Fluorite improves concentration and helps with remembering things.
- Opalite: a synthetic stone that clears the mind. Opalite helps you relax and boosts self-confidence, so the child comes into his or her own power and copes more easily with new situations.
In elementary school, themes such as giftedness and ADHD often come up. These children are generally best helped with Labradorite. Labradorite is a beautiful, versatile protective stone that strengthens the aura and helps keep the energy system better regulated.
Puberty
Puberty is all about discovering who you really are. For many children it is a tough and confusing time in which many choices have to be made, and many children experience great social pressure. The most important things in this phase are protection, safety and trust. Now that the children are a little older, there is a wider choice of stones you can use. Here are a few suggestions.
- Black Tourmaline: many children are practically glued to their phones. The radiation from the phone can have quite an impact on a child without him or her noticing right away. Carrying a small Black Tourmaline or attaching one to the back of the phone can bring a lot of peace of mind, because Black Tourmaline protects against electromagnetic radiation.
- Citrine: a stone that brings cheerfulness and helps overcome insecurity. A beautiful stone that strengthens self-confidence.
- Blue Chalcedony: helps you stay calm, for example during tests and exams, and helps you remember what you have learned.
High sensitivity
During puberty, many children get stuck without always knowing why. High sensitivity has received a lot of attention in recent years and is a theme we should take seriously, since many children experience a kind of "short circuit" from all the stimuli coming at them. The stones below can help them deal with high sensitivity.
- Labradorite: strengthens the aura, so that stimuli and impressions from the environment come in less harshly. It makes you less likely to be drained by other energies around you.
- Aventurine: has a relaxing and reassuring effect and basically makes all growth easier.
- Rose Quartz: gently and warmly encourages a child's self-love.
- Aquamarine: a stone that can bring deep calm in times when the nervous system is overloaded.
- Red Jasper: a safe stone that gives more grounding and puts you firmly on both feet.
- Clear Quartz: a wonderfully purifying stone that helps regulate your energy and gives you strength.
Adolescence
The child now mostly stands on their own two feet and separates from their parents. An exciting new phase begins, sometimes with trial and error. Staying in touch with your child is essential in this phase.
- Blue Calcite: helps with speaking from the heart and supports you in finding the right words.
- Chrysocolla: promotes communication and makes you tolerant when taking a stand.
Finally
The advice above is a guide that can point you in a direction when choosing and using the right stone. What matters most is that your child connects with the stone and learns to feel whether it suits them and what the stone does. So feel free to let your child choose; children often know intuitively exactly which stone they need at that moment. Not sure what to choose, or would you like specific advice? Do not hesitate to contact us.
Gemstones, minerals and crystals are natural products and may occasionally show color variations or small imperfections. Gemstones, minerals and crystals work only as a support and are never a substitute for medical care or therapy. If you have health complaints, always consult your doctor.